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Monday, January 24, 2011

I Snapped..

Have you ever had one of those moments where you feel like you are a bad parent? Well I had one of those moments today. I was trying to keep my cool but I just snapped.

Let me tell you exactly what happen. I went and picked up baby girl from daycare. Of course she wanted a piece of candy they have sitting out everyday. WhytheH they have candy out for the kids everyday is totally beyond me. What kid needs to have candy everyday? Don't they understand about childhood obesity? Anyway let me get back to the point.

I tell baby girl that she couldn't have any candy and she starts crying. Now, I can handle regular crying and pouting but that is not what this was. This was the fall down on the floor shrieking kind of crying. I get her off the floor and try to calm her down. She continues to scream and try to jump out of my arms. We finally get out of the building without too many looks and get to the car. This is where she decided to turn it up a notch.

I put her in the car and she refuses to sit down in her seat and buckle up. She starts kicking, and unbuckling herself. Finally, I just like fine we will just sit here until you decide to calm down. Well, 15 minutes goes by and there seems to be no end in sight. I got her down and buckled her up and turn the truck on. As soon as I turned the key she jumps up and turns the truck off and is blocking the ignition so I couldn't turn it back on. This went on two or three more times. I popped the mess out of her hand...why? I don't know; because popping her never seems to work no matter where you pop her.

Somehow I managed to turn the truck on and began driving off. She jumps out of her seat again and turns it off the AS I'M DRIVING. I just want you to imagine how dangerous this scene is....I'm driving, she's out of her seat, I have cars behind me and she turns the truck off.   Thank God we were still in the parking lot.  We tried again and I got a little further and she did it again...this time while I was on a main road. I was lucky enough to pull into a store's parking lot but not before I ran up on a curb and almost hit a sign. Did I mention that she is only two?

This is when I SNAPPED....

I screamed...I mean screamed. I screamed louder than I've ever screamed at a football game or concert. She could've killed both of us...over some dang (not the word I really want to use) candy. And what was her response?!? Of course she started screaming back and get this...pinched me and told me "you don't talk to no one like that"

By this point I'm just thinking..."I just have to make it 2 miles to the house". Baby girl finally calmed down and was acting as if nothing happened asking me what was for dinner. Is she bipolar...WTH?!?  We made it home safely and I've calmed down.

I am so sick of these tantrums that she has. I don't know what else to try. Time-out, the corner, popping, reasoning and talking don't seem to be working.

Anyone been through this or have any tips that I could try? I'm willing to try almost anything at this point.

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All I can say is pray Lol!
You are very patient :) If this happens in an Asian family (especially Chinese), she probably gonna get it big time :p
I think two year olds are pretty bipolar. They don't really know how to manage their emotions so they lash out. But seriously, I would have wore her little rear end out. She could kick and scream all she wanted in that car seat, but if she had gotten out then she would have gotten a spanking. And I don't mean just a pop. But that's me, and that's not everyone's style.
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She did get a spanking but did not even skip a beat. It was like I was tickling her with a feather.
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I'm here to tell you that it doesn't get much better with age.... I recently wrote a post about a wearing your snow boot fight I had with my 6 year old daughter..... let's just say that we were both crying by the time she went to school.. 12 more years of this!!!! I have to agree with Jennifer on this...nothing wrong with a little swat to the backside in those cases - but for some reason that doesn't seem to phase my daughter. Gotta love girls!
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My daughter is just like your daughter. It doesn't phase her a bit. I just do get it. Hopefully this is just a phase that will end very soon.
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Ugh so sorry you are dealing with this. Our worst tantrum thankfully was at home and the child just went crazy screaming, hitting kicking so while my natural inclination was to slam the kid through the wall - no I really wouldn't do that, ever, but boy isn't it tempting sometimes- I just gave up and started imitating and screaming and carrying on myself complete with getting down on the floor kicking etc... it shocked her enough to stop the behavior. At least til the next go round. Good luck!
1 reply · active 739 weeks ago
I think I tried the imitating things once and she just got louder to out do me.
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Oh my....so sorry that had to happen to you both!

My daughter (she's 2 yrs and 8 mos. old) had a big tantrum just 13 days ago. We were at a family gathering, my aunt's 73rd birthday (yes, in public!). She just ate and her dad took her outside for a stroll in the neighborhood. It started to rain but she didn't want to come inside. She started wailing the minute they stepped inside the house. She was pulling her dad so he could take her outside again. We took her in one of the rooms and she cried even louder. Didn't want anybody holding her, carrying her, or looking at her. We also tried to wait it out. Tried ignoring her. I even raised my voice. But that only made her cry, scream, and cough even more. My childhood nanny suggested that we give her some ice cream, and to face her in front of the mirror...that did the trick. Good thing that my nanny reminded us that my Maia loves ice cream and is fascinated by mirrors. Though, I don't know if that will work for everytime my baby throws a tantrum.

I know not everyone will agree. But if my daughter unbuckled herself and turned off the ignition while I was driving, I am sure to let her know and "feel" that what she did is a BIG No-No indeed! No excuses. But I will be sure to tell her why it is so and why it upsetted me.

I don't exactly know what advice to give. All i can offer you is to let you know that I understand you. That I can relate. As moms, all we can ever do is our best with regard to our kids. Godspeed to you and yours!
(http://mymommyconfessions.blogspot.com/)
1 reply · active 739 weeks ago
Oh, she felt it but I think baby girl is like me. growing up spankings did nothing to deter me; if anything they just made me madder. I was more of a punishment kind of girl. Take away my radio and see cry like the world was coming to an end.
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lol...I will remember to say that part to myself. I can't wait for the day when I can look back and not remember when she had her last tantrum

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OMG that is so dangerous. I will tell you in full honesty if E had pulled something like that I would have smacked the crap out of his bottom. So do NOT go feeling bad for snapping. That is a horrific situation to be in. The only advice i can offer is when she does something so bad and so dangerous like that, determine whatever it is that really matters to her at that moment/day and TAKE IT AWAY for a good 2 days along with a time out. She's got to understand, as best as a 2 yo can, that putting anyone in danger has serious consequences.

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